My One thing box…. so DOING IT WRONG…..

A few months ago, the LAST time I almost had a “mini mental breakdown” from trying to be superwoman ( GRACE, the damn costume does NOT fit) a really great friend of mine said, “Damn it Grace, will you just slow down?!?!? Focus on ONE THING, just one thing at a time!!!”  “Yeah, yeah” I replied. ” I got it. (as I added 20 more things to my to do list)

We finished our conversation and she said, “I’ve got it!  I am making something for you.”  Ok?  I didn’t really think much more about it…..

A month later, a box arrived from Florida, ( I live in Illinois)…..hmmmm Not medical supplies, (they come from Texas)…. Not my prescriptions…(THOSE came LAST week) too big of a box to be more bills ( besides that, medical collectors like to use big flashy envelopes so that all your neighbors know you are a slacker)

light bulb over your head Duh, Florida!  Bones is from Florida!!!!!!!! tiki doll

She said she was sending you something…..

My mind went back to what I THOUGHT was our last conversation in which we had talked about going thrift shop shopping for an ugly “tiki like” statue.

The side story behind the “Tiki statue”.

Although I have “known” Bones for almost 3 years, we have only ever “hung out” (in person) two times.  I live in Illinois, she lives in Florida.  We “met” playing an online game on facebook, and it was over a year of talking on the phone, skype etc before we actually met in person.  She was supposed to come stay with me for a week in Sept. of last year, even had purchased her airline ticket, but Hurricane Maria hit the day she was supposed to fly out. 😦 So the trip was cancelled.

We tried to find time in our schedules to pick another day, but with the holidays coming and my daughter’s upcoming wedding, we decided to wait and try again next year.  To hold ourselves “accountable” we agreed to purchase the ugliest statue that we could find to be left at the other ones house.  The only way you could get rid of the statue was to “deliver” it in person to the other one.

So back to the package…..

Why was she sending me the Tiki package?  That wasn’t our plan.  We were going to pick one out together…..  😦 and it was supposed to be HAND delivered or retrieved…. Hmmmm well I’m just not gonna open it!  😛

The box sat by the door for 2 hours before Einstein pestered me enough to open it.

I’m glad I was sitting on the floor when I did.  Fucking tears came out of no where.  When I opened the box this is what I saw…..

She had HAND MADE me my very own “One Thing”  box to remind me to….. SLOW THE HELL DOWN!!!

Who knew that this woman that lives more than 1000 miles away from me, that I met playing an online game, would become one of the best friends anyone could ask for?!?!?

The box is not only a box to collect my to do lists.  Bones did research on why I use the ORANGE ROSE as my blog picture.  (Orange is the color for MS awareness and I printed the rose on our 3d printer, when I was feeling especially blah one day to remind myself that there is still beauty in the world)  I know….. cheesy, but it works for me.  She found images of butterflies, which I didn’t know also represent MS awareness.

Inside of the box she taped the picture of me skydiving that I had posted on my newly created blog’s welcome page.  She included cut out One Thing “tags” with a letter explaining that how I was supposed to use this box. She said, ” This is for your LONG list of To-do’s, but…. BUT you can ONLY place ONE task on each piece of paper.”  Of course there were more “rules”, but you get the gist?

Well I’m still doing it wrong……

right way

wrong way

I THOUGHT I was doing it right, but I was writing tags like the ones on the left, when I probably should have done more like the ones on the right.

Just because the words fit in the box, does not mean they will fit into a day!!!!…smh

Plan BOSTON?!?!?  Seriously what the hell was I thinking?!?!?  Yep I’m gonna plan a trip with 3 other people all by myself in one day! Doh! I tried, I reached out to everyone to confirm airline selections before booking. I couldn’t reach anyone, but outgoing messages were sent.  So let’s start with cleaning the house.  I probably should have chosen to vacuum OR dust OR laundry instead of tackling all of the rooms and all of the chores at once....but but…the tag said ONE thing…. and I only wrote ONE THING!!!  CLEAN THE HOUSE!!!!!

I did manage to make a lot of progress on the lists on the left, but didn’t actually finish anything except for cleaning the house. ALL OF THE LAUNDRY washed, dried, folded AND put away!!!!  All the dishes, vacuuming, dusting, and I even washed the floors and cleaned the bathrooms.  As I laid down, (passed out) on the couch, utterly exhausted, I looked at the vacuum cleaner that I had neglected to empty or put away, and started the next day’s list….

The next day…..

I laid on the couch all damn day and most of the next….I was in so much pain.

WHEN will I learn?!?!?!?

I really don’t understand why I push myself so hard.  smh I’m sure it has something to do with no longer being able to work outside my house, and self worth and all that, but I KNOW I will PAY for it later, yet I keep doing it.

Definition of Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
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Thank you all for listening to me ramble!  (WordPress is cheaper than a shrink)
Anyone have any ideas why I’m always in such a hurry to get EVERYTHING done?
Bones?  Have I told you lately that I love you?!?!? ( get that song stuck in your head)
I never dreamed that this blogging adventure would lead me to so many supportive people and new friends. 🙂 I’ve had the time of my life 🙂 🙂 🙂

15 thoughts on “My One thing box…. so DOING IT WRONG…..

  1. I LOVE BONES, TOO!!! Aww, what an absolute sweetheart she is! That is the most thoughtful gift. Clearly, she understands that you think you can move mountains in one damn day, and knew you needed some structure. Love it so much! You are hilarious, and I love the way you think. Brooke, one of the best friends I have ever had in my life I met through my blog and I thank my lucky stars for her every day. I even went to Colorado and hung out with her, and we had a blast! So, I love that you two met this way – super cool! Your post made my coffee totally enjoyable this morning…thanks, doll!! xo

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    1. I swear I was just trolling your site not 10 minutes ago, hoping that you had posted something new. I hope you are feeling better and enjoying the new year so far!!! Brooke sounds like a gem!… you didn’t cry at starbucks this morning when you picked it up did you? 😛 FTR I love your blog…and I would almost like to throw a 6 six inch sub at the subway guy, who couldn’t use common sense to visually show you how big six inches was, but then again I think most guys have an issue when it comes to size :0

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      1. HAHAHA. This comment almost made me spit out my coffee!! HA-larious! I am at home this morning drinking coffee, so all of the barista’s in town are safe. And, why was it so hard for the subway guy to figure out what the hell I was trying to ask him? Duh, like I know it’s 6 inches, but I need to see that shit! It was so fucking awkward. Ha! I am happy you enjoy my blog, I very much love yours because you write just as you think with truth and humour and I respect the hell out of you for that. I tend to take FOREVER between posts because I have to write about something I am feeling, but I am going to try to pick up the pace a little bit without altering my voice. Hope you have a lovely day! xo

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  2. Great entry to your blog. We over do it because tomorrow is unknown. We want to do it while we can. I’m guilty of this too. Although these days I’m learning to slow down, or being forced to learn. Not sure which one came first. lol

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    1. Remember how excited I was when we talked the other day? I had a great pain free day, and “ran around like a chicken with her head cut off”. I am so paying for it today….blurry vision, spasticity and SO MUCH PAIN!!!! 😦 Today is all the food prep for my daughter’s bridal shower tomorrow, and then the shower… I am fricken exhausted and it is only 10 am. I would never forgive myself for not giving 200% percent tomorrow, so I am sure MONDAY is going to SUCK…if you see me online, will you send me to my room? Please?… lol enjoy your weekend Alex!


      1. I hear ya. I’m so sorry you’re having an Msy day. They suck royally!!!! I can identify with your momma instinct to give 200%. I’m the same way, to a fault at times. I kind of screw my health, but our kids are more important than we are in our own eyes.
        Yes I will send you to your room. Will you do that? Probably not. We’re way too much a like for me to think you would. Lol. Enjoy your weekend and have a blast at your daughter shower.

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  3. awesome. Per usual. While you are very driven I will share with you that one theme that my friends with chronic illness share is that they set daily goals. Reasonable ones that if they exceed them great but if they just meet them they go to bed satisfied. Your passion and strength drive you to do too much sometimes but I love how you are when you have a full day. So just keep defining your situation and it won’t define you

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  4. That’s a great idea, and good advice for all of us. Focus on one thing. I make a list every day off and break it down into the smallest chunks that I can (everything from “vacuum office” to “clean the garage”). Yesterday, I had found out we weren’t meeting for our weekly “church” session (my friends and I, at a pub, on Sunday mornings, catching up on the week, watching football, laughing too loud, etc) so I started to put together an extensive list. Then, the “bar signal” came. One of our number chose to push the rest of us to our weekly routine. I went. Playoff football was on, all … day … long.

    Zero strikes off my list.

    One more resolution failed.

    Oh well, life is good and fun sometimes, and busy and productive others. We play, we pay. I’ll move something onto my “Thursday list” and go from there. Good entry, Grace, and GREAT friend!

    P.S. I like your last one the best; wouldn’t “hire maid” complete so much of our list?!

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  5. First off….. just want to say,,,,, what a GREAT bunch of people on here…. I read your post…. Brave, Stong, big hearted peeps!!!! God Bless you all. Grace is a very good and close friend to me and I am SO very happy that she has you all here…. I know it means the world to her…. Thank you for that, warms my heart as well, I just want to put a quote out there for Ms NOT GRACEFUL lol….. A wise woman told me once “It’s NOT the quantity of life I am looking for, but the QUALITY” So, throwing this out there to you…..why try solve the worlds problems in one day spending all your time on things that really are trivial….. perhaps, just find ONE THING to accomplish, be fulfilled and then ENJOY the rest of your day and fill it with the things you love ….. that’s quality! Love ya Butterfly

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