If you have nothing nice to say….

My parents taught me at a very young age, if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all.  (I may still have the handprints on my face or belt marks on my ass to prove it.)  Although, I don’t necessarily agree with the methods used to teach me this, I do think that it is a very important lesson to have learned.

Lately, I haven’t had anything nice to say….so I haven’t said anything.  This isn’t to say that my life is terrible, but to be honest, I don’t even like being with myself lately …..so I say nothing.  I don’t like that I am getting angry over small things, and more importantly I don’t like that I don’t understand why I’m upset.

A friend said to me today, “Are you ok Grace? I’m worried about you.”  My response was “No I’m not, but I will be.”.  I KNOW that I will be.  I don’t know when, but I will get through this slump whatever it is, just like I have 100x before.

For those of you that use music to relate or express your emotions….the song Downtime by Jo Dee Messina kind of sums up what I am feeling at the moment.  If you listen to it let me know what you think.  How do you handle those days when you’ve got nothing nice to say?



29 thoughts on “If you have nothing nice to say….

  1. I’ve recently been in The Melancholy. At first I was worried and wanted to pull myself out of it immediately. Then I thought Fuck It! I’m doing that to make everyone else comfortable around me. I’ll come out of it when I’m good and ready. And well if someone’s a fucktard, then they are…nothing you can do about it! 😉

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  2. Hey, I’ve been thinking about you. Long time no see.
    What do I do?! Like you, nth much. I’m on mute, don’t talk, don’t answer questions (I can be pretty aggressive in my silence), I read a lot, I avoid people, keep to myself and listen to the birds in my back yard and classical music. Sometimes I think too much, other times I try shutting off completely, which helps the most.

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  3. I love Naturally Calamity Jane’s comment above about The Melancholy; ‘I’ll come out of it when I’m good and ready’. I’m very much of the view that you sometimes have to wallow in it. Time is needed to lick wounds and just ‘be’. I’ve had such a short fuse this week that I’ve worried I’d end a day in hospital or prison if someone crossed me. So on my day off, instead of doing chores, I’m lying on my swingseat reading blogs. Music is GREAT therapy. Look after yourself.

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  4. Oh wow, Calamity Jane knows whats up. Please heed her advice and do whatever the fuck you need to do. And feel all the feelings. You don’t owe an explanation to anyone, so take care of yourself, however, you damn well need to. Like, don’t kill anyone, but you know, have a bubble bath for 6 hours with a straw and a bottle of merlot. Shit, I might even do that this weekend!

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  5. I’m sorry you’ve been feeling so ‘meh’, for lack of a better word. I never really applied this saying to feeling crappy, only in terms of not saying mean things to other people. I guess I often deal feeling like this with it by keeping myself busy and actually making myself worse, so I wouldn’t advocate that. I’ve been pretty ‘meh’ lately, and not doing all that great, but you’re right in reminding yourself that things can and will change. I do, however, think it’s important to feel it, acknowledge how you feel, and, if you want to, to reach out. Nobody should judge you and I’d like to hope your readers here (^ from the comments I can see I’m right) will all be supportive and will want to be there for you. Don’t worry about not having anything nice to say. Put yourself first right now, do whatever it takes to get yourself through the sludge of how you’re feeling, and have hope for brighter days. Just listening to that song now so thanks for the recommendation – I had to find it elsewhere on YouTube though because that link didn’t work, so I found it here – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SOVAYyYt_VI

    Hugs and love your way Grace  ♥
    Caz xx

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    1. TY Caz! Today is better than yesterday and yesterday better than the day before. Meh is a great word… I like it!… I don’t like myself when I can’t control my mouth though. A small example, someone was “pushing me to smile” the other day…the first time I let it slide, the second, I launched bright red lasers out of my eyes at them and barked through clenched teeth that they should shut the fuck up and/ or go away. I don’t like to say hurtful things, because then I have the guilt of having to apologize because I KNOW they were trying to help…does that make any sense? It’s also hard for me to talk about why I’m feeling this way, when I haven’t sorted it out in my head quite yet. I’m sorry that the link didn’t work, thank you for providing another 🙂

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  6. Beer. Billy (Idol, Squier, Joel). A little Madden. A little Ludo. A lot of Moxie.

    A few minutes uninterrupted.

    Some combination of those things can get me back in the good.

    P.S. if you don’t have anything nice to say, write something angry. I’d like to see that, too. 😉

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    1. Beer…check…picking up a keg tomorrow morning ( gotta keep my promise to have one every sunday at 10:59 in honor of walmart…. Music, I FINALLY put a free trial of spotify on my phone…Madden? sports?…um well Dogs… Snuff, D.O.G., and even the neighbors dog are keeping me busy as hell (unfortunately they all know something isn’t right, so I am literally tripping on them)…. I’m gonna try sunshine, beer, and some time with my kiddos next….if that doesn’t help… I may show my ass on Monday :P. Enjoy your weekend..and ty for sharing 🙂

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  7. I am so glad you are back Grace! I was getting a little worried about you. I was starting to have withdrawals to no Grace around! I was taught that as a child too, if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all. That is the reason why I am so silent when I am at work. I literally have nothing nice to say to those rude and ignorance people! Take it easy my dear sweet friend. We all have times when we are down and it is okay, you will be back to your normal sassy self soon
    All my love dear!

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  8. I generally call you (just kidding). Those don’t happen very often, but when they do I crawl into my metaphorical man cave and don;t say much to anyone. After a good night’s sleep I’m usually back to my normal self

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  9. I also grew up with that saying. I believe it too.
    Sometimes silence is a better friend and more accepting than opening mouths that spout stupid.
    We all have our “off days”, some more than others, because well, life….sickness….death.
    So we all trying in some way.
    Be nice. Cant be nice? Keep Quiet? Cant Keep Quite, crawl back into some hole. Stay there.
    Depression and Grief are not easy…
    I can do without platitudes.

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