Last week? I think it was last week, I asked someone to hold the flashlight for me. I don’t know why I was so surprised by the number of offers I received, but I was genuinely and pleasantly surprised. Thank YOU for that!
In my post I talked about how I don’t do “feelings” very well, and that I was going to take some time working on that. What I have discovered is that I am not very nice to myself. My ‘inner’ voice says the most atrocious things to myself. I call myself fat. I call myself lazy. I call myself mean, and to be honest, I am very mean TO MYSELF. “you should have done better , Why didn’t you try harder? You should have been able to fix that!!!”
Did I mention pretty fucking mean? The thing is the things I say to myself, I would never say to another human being. EVER!. So why is it ok to say it to myself?!?!? I’ve been spending the last week trying to find the answer to that question, and I have come up with…. IT’S NOT OKAY!
That’s as far as I have gotten with my observations.
I am very mean to myself and IT IS NOT OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have tried the whole stand in front of the mirror and telling myself that I am a warrior thing, which resulted in my spitting toothpaste on the mirror. When I finished cleaning that up, I did realize that I was laughing. I also came to the conclusion that laughing makes up two of my strengths. 1. I have a good sense of humor. AND 2. I am able to laugh at myself. Those are both good qualities to have.
A third “positive affirmation” that I was able to come up with, is that I am good at making people feel good about themselves. It truly makes me happy to watch someone grow and stand taller. I need to spend more time thinking about how I do that and apply it to myself.
Before I go, I want to thank you all for your comments and messages, it really does help to know that I’m not alone here in the dark.